This is what he really means when he says these 30 things (2023)

Everyone knows that communication between men and women is a very complicated thing, made even more complicated by the fact that, as a rule, men are not so good at communicating.

They hide their feelings inside a thick shell and don't like to take that shell off to see what their feelings are up to. Furthermore, when they do choose to talk to us, they do so minimally and infrequently, while employing deflection techniques such as saying one thing when they really mean something completely different.

We women often get a bad rap for this, but the truth is, men do too, and more often than not they'll admit it. This could be because they are not even aware that they are doing it. Men often say that women should come with an instruction manual. What men should bring is a translation booklet or perhaps a pamphlet. That way we could look up all the little sentences and figure out what they're really trying to say. This could clear up or start a lot of fights, but it would definitely eliminate a lot of doubt and wasted time wondering what's wrong with you. Since we don't have that, there's this nice list. Enjoy!

30I don't care baby

This is a helpful answer given by men to answer a lot of different questions ranging from "What do you want for dinner?" to "Should I buy this pretty lace thing?" Sometimes he means it, and he just doesn't care what color shirt we wear, but sometimes what he really means is:

"Please stop asking me and make up your mind about this."

wall street madnesscomments: “We say certain things with our logic applied to them. Women interpret what we say using their logic. The chaos continues."

29Whatever

For many of us, this usually indicates that you're done talking and going into grumpy mode. If that was the end goal of the conversation, congratulations! Has won! If it didn't (and it usually doesn't), then essentially the conversation has hit a soft spot and been put on hold while he processes. Better get some ice cream; This will take a while. According topellets,"If they just said what they're thinking, things would be a lot easier and they might stop thinking we're crazy."

28I don't do relationships

There are several different versions of this, but they all boil down to the same thing: he doesn't want a personal relationship with us, or he's too shy to commit.you tangoagrees,

"When a guy says that, it's his way of gently letting you down."

He might be looking at you as a one night stand type of girl. This type of guy is best avoided unless you just want him as a toy with no attachments. It's definitely a heartbreaker.

27I'm so overwhelmed with work right now

This is usually translated as "I don't have time for you" or "I'm not interested enough in you to make time for you". Of course, there are rare circumstances where you're really overwhelmed with work, but you could spend an hour telling us over the phone how overwhelmed you are to be able to connect like this. According toRelationship Rules,"But you need to be patient and understanding with each other during the early parts of the relationship so that you have a chance to get to know each other better."

26this is great

The easy translation of this is that he wasn't listening. We've just spent 20 minutes telling him about our day, and this is the only answer he can come up with without taking his eyes off his phone. Perhaps a glass of wine and window shopping on Tinder will better listen to our problems. According towall street madness,"These incredibly different approaches to thinking could be the root of all the communication problems men and women face, don't you think?"

25Can we talk about this later?

This is a sneaky evasion. He really doesn't want to talk about it, now or later or never. He's basically archiving the conversation and waiting for us to forget about it. This will backfire because you won't forget and will definitely bring it up again "later".relationship rulesDice,

“When a man doesn't want to talk about something, he diverts the conversation to something else.

And it will sound like you're willing to talk about it another time, even when you're not."

24I am tired

relationship rulesThey weren't kidding when they said, "It can be very exhausting trying to figure out what your man is trying to tell you." In this particular case, when he says he's tired, or he's very tired; in that case, he's probably already half asleep or just not in the mood. This is so weird for guys that they feel like they can't admit it, so they make up an excuse instead. Give him a little rest and maybe a little encouragement, and he'll be back on track in no time.

23we need to take a break

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Aswall street madnesstranslate for us,

"I've been trying to get you to leave me for three months and this is as close as I can get to doing it myself."

Another version of this is, "I need some space right now." He might need some space but the reality is he is not in the relationship anymore emotionally but he doesn't know how to break up with us and he might also not want to hurt us because he still cares about us but not romantically anymore.

22I do not make public displays of affection

Or possibly: "I don't put relationship stuff on Facebook." This one always smells like fish and for good reason. According toyour interest,really means, “I don't want other girls I'm friends with on Facebook to know I'm in a relationship so I can remain incomplete. It could also mean that you are embarrassed or embarrassed about the relationship. Obviously, we should fill his Facebook with selfies of us and then prepare to call it quits. We definitely can do better.

21i need a guys night

He could very well be missing his friends since he spends all his time with us now. But there is also the possibility that now he spends all his time with us and wants time off. but not like arestrest, just a rest. Instead of overthinking it, let's decide that we've won and wear out. Then reward us with a glass of red. According toyour interest,“Men take the most direct route possible when it comes to communication. Women tend to be a little more complex."

20Let's do some Netflix and relax

Ooh, this is one of the guys favorite phrases to use with us.pelletssays, “We all know this one. He's the perfect example of guys who say one thing and mean a totally different thing." Admittedly, it sounds a lot better than it actually means, which is something like "Can you spend the night?" You might want to watch this new show sci-fi, but he doesn't want to do exactly that with us. He has other things on his mind in that department.

19I miss you

If the relationship is long-distance or reasonably established, you'll probably miss us terribly. But howpelletsnotes, "Depending on where he is in your relationship, he may very well miss her, but what is he missing?" Translation: He misses us in a private way, simple as that. Of course, this could be a compliment of sorts, but in general, we might want him to be missed for more reasons than that. We must demand flowers and chocolate from him when we see him again.

18You look great

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This usually has two meanings behind it. a tasteyour interestsays, is: “A simple but very quick response used to stop you from asking how this dress looks. Or shoes or whatever item of clothing you're asking her opinion on." The other means "Can we go now? We're already late. "He usually doesn't look at us when he says this, he just takes his keys and hands us our coat.

17You and beautiful

pelletssays, “It refers to this, but in reality it means much more. If he's using that word, then he really thinks you're beautiful." This is especially true in established relationships. If we've just met, he's definitely trying to cheer us up and get something. But, as a general rule, this is one of the few times he means what he means, and he actually means something super nice and sweet. Such compliments deserve a rewarding kiss so that we can continue to receive them.

sixteenThis steak tastes great

That might be true, but if the steak or whatever he's eating is burned as a sacrificial offering or undercooked, he's just saying that to make us feel better about our poor cooking skills. With this kind of compliment, you want us to know that you appreciate our efforts, even if the end result was awful. He knows we can get better if we keep trying. whichyour interestsays, "Most men like a lady who knows how to eat with them."

15clear

The easy answer to what that means is that I just wasn't listening to the question in the first place. In that case, we can either ignore him and do whatever we want (which he might later regret but should have paid more attention to), or we can stand up to him and repeat the question when we have his attention. According toyour interest,"All it takes is a little logic and you'll be cracking the code of every sentence he says in no time."

14I am fine

This is usually exchanged for "I'm fine". According towall street madness,the translation goes something like this: “Maybe I'm not doing very well, but it's something I'd rather deal with alone. Please stop asking me if I'm okay, because the more times you ask that question, the less good I feel." And they think we're the ones who overthink everything. fight or back off and give him some space to work out his issues.

13No, and you; It is me

We all know that line as the nice guy parting line.pelletssays it translates like this:

"If a guy says that, he might mean it, since it's not you, he's too much of a coward to say how he feels."

It's very likely that we contributed something to the relationship that led to this, but when a guy uses that line, it's not just us. it's him too.

12I'm sorry

There are times when you might actually regret something, but a general rule of thumb for men is that they don't. whichyou tangosays, “They just regret that the argument is going on or they got caught doing something they shouldn't have done.

In other words, when guys apologize, they just want the drama to be over."

Boys don't like drama. That said, you sure do like to get into potentially dramatic situations on a regular basis, don't you?

11You are prettier without makeup

This is a touchy subject for many of us. A lot of guys really mean it and think they are giving us a confidence boost by saying it. But mostly, they're the kind of guys thatwall street madnessmentions. For them, it translates like this,

"I don't know what I'm talking about. Just don't paint yourself like a clown.

It takes forever, it smells weird, and if I touch you or kiss you, it takes over."

10I love you

In general, he probably really means it, but if the timing is not right, he may mean that he loves our body instead of us. And if the timing is really bad, then the explanation is that he has no more blood in his head and is crazy.wall street madnesstranslates humorously as,

“Wow, I did. I'm crazy about you and I don't want to see anyone else.

You are someone I could look forward to spending the rest of my life with."

9when you say nothing

This is usually said in response to a probing question such as "What do you want for dinner?" "He is well?" "What happened?!" It usually indicates that you don't want to talk about it or you're still in a bad mood. Or maybe he just doesn't want to have dinner or nothing is wrong. According toyour interest,

“It's no secret that men and women speak almost completely different languages.

But the fact is, men speak a much, much simpler language than women."

8I will call you

We women are in this, so the guys will have to think of a new line. We all know what it means: "I won't call you." Up untilwall street madnessThis one knows: “I won't call you. Well, it could. Though probably not. He probably says that because he doesn't want to hurt our feelings by being blunt and saying it won't work. Instead, you prefer to give us false hope and waste our time waiting for your call.

7she is just a friend

And it probably is. It's very rare for guys to have girlfriends, but when they do, they're literally just friends, unless he's one of those creepy guys who tries to sleep with his girlfriends. According torelationship rules,"What he really means is that he thinks it's incredibly cute and adorable that another girl feels threatened and jealous of you, but there's no reason for that." If he slept with her, he probably wouldn't be friends with her anymore.

6I was just kidding

This is usually said with a note of panic in her voice and eyes as she stares at us in shock. He probably said something stupid and thought it was funny, but then he realized our response or lack thereof and is quickly backing off.your interestconfirm this:

"Which means he wasn't technically kidding, but he realized he hurt you and now he's trying to cover it up by saying it was just a joke."

Let it drag a bit and then move on. I'll probably do it again soon anyway.

5we should leave soon

According toyour interest,this means.

“He's telling you that he wants to keep you close and open to meet whenever he wants, but he's not fully committing to you.

He would set a plan in stone if he really liked you that much. We must challenge him and set a date for the next day to watch him squirm and panic as he tries to figure out how to get out of this.

4I will stay tonight

This is often given as a reason for not getting together for a spontaneous, fun night out.pelletssay what it means

"If you ask a guy to meet you somewhere and he says he's staying home, it's probably code for him to stay up and play video games all night, but he's too embarrassed to say it."

If you're a different type of person, video games might replace some not-so-PG movies, or maybe you're reading a book.

3I didn't mean it

Unfortunately, he actually did, and now he's in a panic. This is similar to the joke he made earlier, but it probably wasn't a joke, and now he's defensive. According toyour interest,

“So he definitely meant it, but ended up taking back his statement due to you getting so mad. He doesn't feel ready to fight, so he's going to back off before it all blows up in his face."

Depending on what he says, letting it stew a little might do the trick.

2it's a boy thing

According towall street madness,this translates to something like "If you don't understand, I can't explain." Don't worry about it, it's not a big deal and it's probably stupid anyway. Can we drop? It could also mean that he just doesn't want to explain it because he knows we're not going to like it. Or he just doesn't want to explain it for male reasons. We can google it or we can skip it and save it for later.

1I give you a massage

And finally, this is a classic. He tries to say it all sweetly and seems to really pamper us (especially after a long day when he knows a massage would do wonders), but what happens in the end is this, according toyour interest,He's probably interested in a massage, it's just that his eyes are probably leading to another guy's mutual one. Anyway, he's not very good at massages, so we used his money to buy a really good one.

References:wall street madness,pellets,you tango,relationship rules,your interest