Everyone knows that communication between men and women is a very complicated thing, made even more complicated by the fact that, as a rule, men are not so good at communicating.
They hide their feelings inside a thick shell and don't like to take that shell off to see what their feelings are up to. Furthermore, when they do choose to talk to us, they do so minimally and infrequently, while employing deflection techniques such as saying one thing when they really mean something completely different.
We women often get a bad rap for this, but the truth is, men do too, and more often than not they'll admit it. This could be because they are not even aware that they are doing it. Men often say that women should come with an instruction manual. What men should bring is a translation booklet or perhaps a pamphlet. That way we could look up all the little sentences and figure out what they're really trying to say. This could clear up or start a lot of fights, but it would definitely eliminate a lot of doubt and wasted time wondering what's wrong with you. Since we don't have that, there's this nice list. Enjoy!
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30I don't care baby
This is a helpful answer given by men to answer a lot of different questions ranging from "What do you want for dinner?" to "Should I buy this pretty lace thing?" Sometimes he means it, and he just doesn't care what color shirt we wear, but sometimes what he really means is:
"Please stop asking me and make up your mind about this."
wall street madnesscomments: “We say certain things with our logic applied to them. Women interpret what we say using their logic. The chaos continues."
For many of us, this usually indicates that you're done talking and going into grumpy mode. If that was the end goal of the conversation, congratulations! Has won! If it didn't (and it usually doesn't), then essentially the conversation has hit a soft spot and been put on hold while he processes. Better get some ice cream; This will take a while. According topellets,"If they just said what they're thinking, things would be a lot easier and they might stop thinking we're crazy."
28I don't do relationships
There are several different versions of this, but they all boil down to the same thing: he doesn't want a personal relationship with us, or he's too shy to commit.you tangoagrees,
"When a guy says that, it's his way of gently letting you down."
He might be looking at you as a one night stand type of girl. This type of guy is best avoided unless you just want him as a toy with no attachments. It's definitely a heartbreaker.
27I'm so overwhelmed with work right now
This is usually translated as "I don't have time for you" or "I'm not interested enough in you to make time for you". Of course, there are rare circumstances where you're really overwhelmed with work, but you could spend an hour telling us over the phone how overwhelmed you are to be able to connect like this. According toRelationship Rules,"But you need to be patient and understanding with each other during the early parts of the relationship so that you have a chance to get to know each other better."
26this is great
The easy translation of this is that he wasn't listening. We've just spent 20 minutes telling him about our day, and this is the only answer he can come up with without taking his eyes off his phone. Perhaps a glass of wine and window shopping on Tinder will better listen to our problems. According towall street madness,"These incredibly different approaches to thinking could be the root of all the communication problems men and women face, don't you think?"
25Can we talk about this later?
This is a sneaky evasion. He really doesn't want to talk about it, now or later or never. He's basically archiving the conversation and waiting for us to forget about it. This will backfire because you won't forget and will definitely bring it up again "later".relationship rulesDice,
“When a man doesn't want to talk about something, he diverts the conversation to something else.
And it will sound like you're willing to talk about it another time, even when you're not."
24I am tired
relationship rulesThey weren't kidding when they said, "It can be very exhausting trying to figure out what your man is trying to tell you." In this particular case, when he says he's tired, or he's very tired; in that case, he's probably already half asleep or just not in the mood. This is so weird for guys that they feel like they can't admit it, so they make up an excuse instead. Give him a little rest and maybe a little encouragement, and he'll be back on track in no time.
23we need to take a break
Aswall street madnesstranslate for us,
"I've been trying to get you to leave me for three months and this is as close as I can get to doing it myself."
Another version of this is, "I need some space right now." He might need some space but the reality is he is not in the relationship anymore emotionally but he doesn't know how to break up with us and he might also not want to hurt us because he still cares about us but not romantically anymore.
22I do not make public displays of affection
Or possibly: "I don't put relationship stuff on Facebook." This one always smells like fish and for good reason. According toyour interest,really means, “I don't want other girls I'm friends with on Facebook to know I'm in a relationship so I can remain incomplete. It could also mean that you are embarrassed or embarrassed about the relationship. Obviously, we should fill his Facebook with selfies of us and then prepare to call it quits. We definitely can do better.
21i need a guys night
He could very well be missing his friends since he spends all his time with us now. But there is also the possibility that now he spends all his time with us and wants time off. but not like arestrest, just a rest. Instead of overthinking it, let's decide that we've won and wear out. Then reward us with a glass of red. According toyour interest,“Men take the most direct route possible when it comes to communication. Women tend to be a little more complex."
20Let's do some Netflix and relax
Ooh, this is one of the guys favorite phrases to use with us.pelletssays, “We all know this one. He's the perfect example of guys who say one thing and mean a totally different thing." Admittedly, it sounds a lot better than it actually means, which is something like "Can you spend the night?" You might want to watch this new show sci-fi, but he doesn't want to do exactly that with us. He has other things on his mind in that department.
19I miss you
If the relationship is long-distance or reasonably established, you'll probably miss us terribly. But howpelletsnotes, "Depending on where he is in your relationship, he may very well miss her, but what is he missing?" Translation: He misses us in a private way, simple as that. Of course, this could be a compliment of sorts, but in general, we might want him to be missed for more reasons than that. We must demand flowers and chocolate from him when we see him again.
18You look great
This usually has two meanings behind it. a tasteyour interestsays, is: “A simple but very quick response used to stop you from asking how this dress looks. Or shoes or whatever item of clothing you're asking her opinion on." The other means "Can we go now? We're already late. "He usually doesn't look at us when he says this, he just takes his keys and hands us our coat.
17You and beautiful
pelletssays, “It refers to this, but in reality it means much more. If he's using that word, then he really thinks you're beautiful." This is especially true in established relationships. If we've just met, he's definitely trying to cheer us up and get something. But, as a general rule, this is one of the few times he means what he means, and he actually means something super nice and sweet. Such compliments deserve a rewarding kiss so that we can continue to receive them.
sixteenThis steak tastes great
That might be true, but if the steak or whatever he's eating is burned as a sacrificial offering or undercooked, he's just saying that to make us feel better about our poor cooking skills. With this kind of compliment, you want us to know that you appreciate our efforts, even if the end result was awful. He knows we can get better if we keep trying. whichyour interestsays, "Most men like a lady who knows how to eat with them."
The easy answer to what that means is that I just wasn't listening to the question in the first place. In that case, we can either ignore him and do whatever we want (which he might later regret but should have paid more attention to), or we can stand up to him and repeat the question when we have his attention. According toyour interest,"All it takes is a little logic and you'll be cracking the code of every sentence he says in no time."
14I am fine
This is usually exchanged for "I'm fine". According towall street madness,the translation goes something like this: “Maybe I'm not doing very well, but it's something I'd rather deal with alone. Please stop asking me if I'm okay, because the more times you ask that question, the less good I feel." And they think we're the ones who overthink everything. fight or back off and give him some space to work out his issues.
13No, and you; It is me
We all know that line as the nice guy parting line.pelletssays it translates like this:
"If a guy says that, he might mean it, since it's not you, he's too much of a coward to say how he feels."
It's very likely that we contributed something to the relationship that led to this, but when a guy uses that line, it's not just us. it's him too.
There are times when you might actually regret something, but a general rule of thumb for men is that they don't. whichyou tangosays, “They just regret that the argument is going on or they got caught doing something they shouldn't have done.
In other words, when guys apologize, they just want the drama to be over."
Boys don't like drama. That said, you sure do like to get into potentially dramatic situations on a regular basis, don't you?
11You are prettier without makeup
This is a touchy subject for many of us. A lot of guys really mean it and think they are giving us a confidence boost by saying it. But mostly, they're the kind of guys thatwall street madnessmentions. For them, it translates like this,
"I don't know what I'm talking about. Just don't paint yourself like a clown.
It takes forever, it smells weird, and if I touch you or kiss you, it takes over."
10I love you
In general, he probably really means it, but if the timing is not right, he may mean that he loves our body instead of us. And if the timing is really bad, then the explanation is that he has no more blood in his head and is crazy.wall street madnesstranslates humorously as,
“Wow, I did. I'm crazy about you and I don't want to see anyone else.
You are someone I could look forward to spending the rest of my life with."
9when you say nothing
This is usually said in response to a probing question such as "What do you want for dinner?" "He is well?" "What happened?!" It usually indicates that you don't want to talk about it or you're still in a bad mood. Or maybe he just doesn't want to have dinner or nothing is wrong. According toyour interest,
“It's no secret that men and women speak almost completely different languages.
But the fact is, men speak a much, much simpler language than women."
8I will call you
We women are in this, so the guys will have to think of a new line. We all know what it means: "I won't call you." Up untilwall street madnessThis one knows: “I won't call you. Well, it could. Though probably not. He probably says that because he doesn't want to hurt our feelings by being blunt and saying it won't work. Instead, you prefer to give us false hope and waste our time waiting for your call.
7she is just a friend
And it probably is. It's very rare for guys to have girlfriends, but when they do, they're literally just friends, unless he's one of those creepy guys who tries to sleep with his girlfriends. According torelationship rules,"What he really means is that he thinks it's incredibly cute and adorable that another girl feels threatened and jealous of you, but there's no reason for that." If he slept with her, he probably wouldn't be friends with her anymore.
6I was just kidding
This is usually said with a note of panic in her voice and eyes as she stares at us in shock. He probably said something stupid and thought it was funny, but then he realized our response or lack thereof and is quickly backing off.your interestconfirm this:
"Which means he wasn't technically kidding, but he realized he hurt you and now he's trying to cover it up by saying it was just a joke."
Let it drag a bit and then move on. I'll probably do it again soon anyway.
5we should leave soon
According toyour interest,this means.
“He's telling you that he wants to keep you close and open to meet whenever he wants, but he's not fully committing to you.
He would set a plan in stone if he really liked you that much. We must challenge him and set a date for the next day to watch him squirm and panic as he tries to figure out how to get out of this.
4I will stay tonight
This is often given as a reason for not getting together for a spontaneous, fun night out.pelletssay what it means
"If you ask a guy to meet you somewhere and he says he's staying home, it's probably code for him to stay up and play video games all night, but he's too embarrassed to say it."
If you're a different type of person, video games might replace some not-so-PG movies, or maybe you're reading a book.
3I didn't mean it
Unfortunately, he actually did, and now he's in a panic. This is similar to the joke he made earlier, but it probably wasn't a joke, and now he's defensive. According toyour interest,
“So he definitely meant it, but ended up taking back his statement due to you getting so mad. He doesn't feel ready to fight, so he's going to back off before it all blows up in his face."
Depending on what he says, letting it stew a little might do the trick.
2it's a boy thing
According towall street madness,this translates to something like "If you don't understand, I can't explain." Don't worry about it, it's not a big deal and it's probably stupid anyway. Can we drop? It could also mean that he just doesn't want to explain it because he knows we're not going to like it. Or he just doesn't want to explain it for male reasons. We can google it or we can skip it and save it for later.
1I give you a massage
And finally, this is a classic. He tries to say it all sweetly and seems to really pamper us (especially after a long day when he knows a massage would do wonders), but what happens in the end is this, according toyour interest,He's probably interested in a massage, it's just that his eyes are probably leading to another guy's mutual one. Anyway, he's not very good at massages, so we used his money to buy a really good one.
References:wall street madness,pellets,you tango,relationship rules,your interest
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What does it mean when a guy says it means a lot? ›
(it/that) means a lot
This expression is a way of indicating appreciation for something or someone. It is usually used to show that something has significantly affected you emotionally in a positive way. It is usually used in social situations to express gratitude or sentimentality.
- He does things for you when you least expect them. ...
- He is always curious to know more about you. ...
- If you're happy, he's happy. ...
- He makes you a part of his life. ...
- He sees a future with you.
Men love women who are thoughtful, caring, loving and kind. A woman who does little things for her man for no other reason other than that she loves him. A woman who makes him smile back whenever she smiles at him. A woman who radiates love and warmth from her heart.How do you romance a man deeply with your hands? ›
Touch him often.
Just touch him on his arm, the small of his back, or on his knee when you're sitting together, or give his hand a little squeeze from time to time. You don't have to go into major PDA mode (not a favorite for many guys) to show him that you care about him and that you love being around him.
- He stares at you a lot. ...
- He may act awkwardly around you. ...
- He pokes fun at guys you are dating or have dated. ...
- He is interested in you as a person. ...
- He goes out of his way to make you happy. ...
- He asks your friends about you. ...
- He gives you genuine compliments. ...
- He remembers details about you and your life.
For example, he holds your hand, has his arms around you, hugs you, always sit close to you, etc. 2- He puts a lot of efforts to make you feel loved. He brings random gifts for you, sings a song for you on a special day, makes time to talk to you anyhow, makes sudden plans, etc. 3- He always listens to you properly.How to know if a guy loves you but is hiding it without talking? ›
- When he looks at you, he can't help smiling. Once I was out with Sam in a cafe. ...
- He always finds excuses to talk to you or spend time together. ...
- He asks you a lot of personal questions. ...
- He remembers the little details about you. ...
- He always makes an effort to keep the conversation going.
It all comes down to their love language. And while every guy is different, men, in general, tend to prefer physical affection, quality time, and words of affirmation. Like women, men show affection in the way they most like to receive it.How does a man treat a woman he loves? ›
Show that you are thoughtful and sensitive by listening, contributing and communicating. Respecting her means respecting yourself as well. Respect her dignity. A man who respects his woman would never cheat on her.What a man desire most in a woman? ›
Like women, men want a life partner who will be trustworthy, faithful and reliable. They want a wife who will stand by their side and, considering divorce rates, it's no surprise that dependability would continue to be attractive.
What 3 things a man needs in a relationship? ›
According to Steve Harvey, if you provide a man with these three things in a relationship, he won't leave: support, loyalty, and intimacy. Harvey says that men may hide behind their macho demeanors, but in the end they just want to feel special.How do you touch a man's heart? ›
- Notice what he does and compliment him. When men do things around the house there are two purposes: one is to fix the problem, the second is to impress you. ...
- Initiate sex. This can be a touchy subject. ...
- Support and encourage their purpose. ...
- Stand up for him. ...
- Brag about him.
- The sight of your bra strap. Seeing a bra strap is a tease, in a good way. ...
- A genuine laugh. ...
- Wearing fitted clothes. ...
- Wearing clothes that aren't too fussy. ...
- Anything that's see-through. ...
- Showing part of your thigh. ...
- Wearing a dress or top that is low cut in the back.
Look for signs like sustained eye contact and dilated pupils. Typically, this means that someone has feelings for you. Watch for subconscious grooming, like when he touches his hair or fixes his tie. Pay attention to whether or not he mirrors your own body language.How do you tell if he likes you more than a friend? ›
- Builds Communication. ...
- Lets His Guard Down. ...
- Displays A Healthy Jealousy. ...
- Appreciates Your Presence. ...
- Observes Even The Small Things About You. ...
- His Eyes Talk. ...
- He Is Playful Around You. ...
- He Goes The Extra Mile For You.
- Everyone around him knows he is depressed. This may not mean a lot to you, except when you are looking at a guy who used to be outspoken and boisterous. ...
- He now spends much time online. ...
- He refrains from dating for a long time. ...
- He tries “too hard” to flirt with other girls.
Your Eye Twitches or Itches Randomly
A randomly twitching or itching eye is another real psychic sign that someone is thinking about you. But it gets even better. While both men and women will feel a sudden itch or twitch of an eye, the meaning is different depending on the eye.
Many times, the true signs are in the little things like his body language, the way he prioritizes you, or when he goes out of his way to try to make you happy. Other signs he loves you are that he asks for your opinion on things and he says nice things about you.What do guys do when they're in love? ›
- He's generous with food. ...
- He'll pamper himself with you. ...
- He usually doesn't freak out, even when you think he will. ...
- He fawns over your naked body. ...
- He remembers things big and small. ...
- He stares at you. ...
- He fills his family in on the details of your life. ...
- He'll tell you as much.
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin found a correlation between eye contact and love. In his study, couples deeply in love look at one another 75% of the time while talking, while people engaged in conversation only look at each other about 30-60% of the time.
What are the 3 hidden signs a man is falling in love with you? ›
There may be many signs a man is falling in love you with, but 3 hidden signs a man is falling in love with you are he checks your social media accounts, likes to spend his free time with you, and talks about making future plans with you or even being your husband one day.How do you know if he's keeping you a secret? ›
- You never meet his friends. ...
- He doesn't talk to you around others. ...
- He calls at random times. ...
- He brags about mingling with other people on social media, but never about seeing you. ...
- You don't hang out in public.
Appreciation, infatuation, attraction, impression, and conviction are the 5 bonding stages for a man.What is intimacy to a man? ›
Broadly speaking, intimacy means deeply knowing someone, while also feeling deeply known yourself. It is something humans crave, and though at times, it may seem more difficult for men to express it, that doesn't mean they don't need or want it.How do guys show they care about you? ›
When a guy cares about you, he will try to make you feel nice. One of the ways to do so is to offer you compliments and try to bring a smile to your face. He will always find a reason to say something good about you. It can be anything – right from the way you laugh to the dress you are wearing.What makes a man feel loved? ›
In plain language: Men often feel most loved by the women in their lives when their partners hug them, kiss them, smile at them, and explicitly offer gratitude, praise, and words of affection. Men also feel loved and connected through sexuality, often to a greater degree than women do.What makes a man truly fall in love with a woman? ›
Physical attraction, sexual compatibility, empathy, and emotional connection are key to making a man fall in love with a woman.What makes a man cherish a woman? ›
Trust & Honesty: Men and women want honesty and trust alike in their relationships always, but even more, men want a woman who isn't scared to be honest in every part of her life and relationship. Whether it is being honest with him or herself, men admire a woman who is comfortable enough to be honest.What keeps a man in a relationship? ›
Clear communication, respect, and honesty can go a long way in helping them open up and reveal their innermost desires or insecurities. While you need to pay attention to their unspoken words and cues, giving them their personal space is also important in strengthening the relationship and communication further.What increases a man's desire? ›
Sometimes, simple lifestyle changes may help a person regain sexual desire. Eating a nutritious diet, getting enough sleep, reducing or cutting out alcohol, and losing weight may help increase interest in sex and improve a person's overall health. For some people, talk therapy or sex therapy can help.
How do you keep a man in love with you? ›
- Be his best friend. ...
- Be spontaneous and playful. ...
- Give him his space. ...
- Never bring up his past in fights. ...
- Be vocal about what you want from your man. ...
- Never go for the silent treatment. ...
- Compliment him often. ...
- Be wild in bed.
Trust. Trust is an integral part of a long-term relationship for both men and women. Guys want connection just as women do, and they want to do things with their partner. They prefer activities where they can focus less on what they're feeling and more on the experience.What men need most in marriage? ›
Willard Harvey, in his book His Needs/Her Needs, states the five top needs of men in marriage. Those five needs are admiration, physical attractiveness, recreational companionship, sexual fulfillment and domestic support. The need that is often most neglected and that I want to focus on here is the need for admiration.What makes men emotionally attached? ›
Another factor that makes a man emotionally attached is when you become vulnerable with them. This subtly nudges the guy to become vulnerable, making him emotionally attached in the long run. Also, another answer to what makes men emotionally attached is when you show gratitude.How do you soften a man's heart? ›
According to Gordon Neufeld, a heart can only be softened with the cultivation of safe and caring attachments with others. It is relationship that offers someone the promise of safety, warmth, and dependence. It is attachment that is the antidote to facing too much separation and wounding.How seduce a man without touching or talking? ›
- Smile at him.
- Make eye contact.
- Play with your hair.
- Throw him a glance over your shoulder.
- Get close to him.
- Keep your body language friendly.
- Dress nicely.
- Do something unexpected.
If I am fairly familiar with them (close friend or good friend) I may say:
- Hey, no worries!
- My pleasure!
- No problem!
- No biggie!
This means a lot to me
When people help you, what might seem like a simple task to them could really make a big difference to you. If this is the case, remind the person how important their help was by saying “This means a lot to me.”
The phrase "It means a lot to me" is an expression used when something or someone is very important and is something you appriciate. Can also be written as “I am really grateful for this, I'm really happy/indebted”.How do you know if a guy is serious for you? ›
He Makes You a Priority
If your guy is serious about the relationship, usually, he will go out of his way to make you a priority. He will plan things with you for the weekend and during the week too. The bottom line is, if he makes you a priority in his life, then you can be rest assured that he's pretty serious.
How do you say a lot in a better way? ›
What Does 'Thank You for Being You' Mean? Saying “thank you for being you” is simply a way to show gratitude for a person being uniquely themselves. It's a way to acknowledge them for all the characteristics that make them the person they are.What does my lot mean in the Bible? ›
Portion; destiny; fate. The LORD is the portion of mine inheritance and of my cup: thou maintainest my LOT. ( Psalm 16:5 ) Source: A King James Dictionary. (What's another way to say thank you so much? ›
Much obliged, much appreciated, I'm grateful, I appreciate it, I owe you one.What does it mean when someone means everything to you? ›
idiom. : to be very important to (someone) : to be something (someone) cares about very much.What makes someone a lot? ›
Someone who is “a lot” boils over with their own personality. They may be overwhelming and hard to handle in a social situation. They are a lot of themselves.How do you respond to no need to thank me? ›
No problem. No worries. Don't mention it. My pleasure.How do you make a guy serious? ›
- Sep 27, 2022. 9 ways to get a man to commit to a serious relationship. ...
- Don't act desperate. It is very normal that you feel frustrated but acting desperate is not a solution to make him commit. ...
- No commitment discussion. ...
- Make rules. ...
- Be loving. ...
- Support the emotional needs. ...
- Keep some distance. ...
- Don't be too demanding.
Trust, honesty, and fidelity are just some of the many things men seek in a relationship. Women are more vocal about what they need and desire, but things men want in a relationship remain a mystery more often than not.How do you make him get serious? ›
- Don't force it. ...
- Let him chase you. ...
- Do your own thing. ...
- Build an emotional bond before a sexual one. ...
- Ask him. ...
- Be his friend first. ...
- Be a listener. ...
- Make him feel special.